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Memes Schmemes

4/9/2020

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It's a global pandemic right now and it feels like that's all anyone wants to talk about on the news, on the radio, on tv, and in person.  But then you have all the various memes telling you to enjoy yourself, go on walks, read books, do yoga.  Then there are the guilt inducing memes about how fabulous it is to have the extra time with your kids to engage in arts and crafts.

And the self-care tips.

Ughhhhhh... all the self-care tips!

Here's a self-care tip: Do it.

That thing you're wanting to do.  Do it.
  • Are you feeling like vegging out watching reality tv and eating Doritos?  Go for it.
  • Do you want to throw away everything in your garage because you're sick of the clutter? That mess isn't sparking joy?  I think the dump is still open, Home Depot rents pickup trucks for about $20, and you probably have some sort of disinfecting agent to wipe down what you touch in public - throw it all out if you want.
  • Are the people in your house being fed?  Do they get an adequate amount of your attention most of the time?  Can they hear the word "no" and still survive?  Ok.
You don't have to be superparent and you don't have to be superspouse.  Just because you're single doesn't mean you need to organize your closets.

You're fine just the way you are.

I'm a therapist and I'm already burned out on how everyone is creating all this hype about how to get through a pandemic the "right way."  There's no right way, people.

Don't neglect your children if you have them, but you don't need to make them the end-all, be-all of all the moments of your days either.  They can have a balance of your attention sometimes and being bored other times (so long as they're safe and sound).  You get to have a balance of being with your kids, enjoying them, and also doing what you need to do for you (which isn't necessarily dishes - unless you're like me and love listening to podcasts when you clean and really the only time you get to listen to podcasts is when you clean... so your house is often a mess because who has time for a podcast with all these kids and while working remotely during a pandemic?)

I'm on the pulse of the therapy meme universe, and I'm getting a little riled up about it, so I wanted to make a post telling people not to buy what those memes are selling.  You don't need strangers who make images adding guilt into your life - they don't know you and they definitely don't deserve space in your mind or your heart.  You've got this!

Written by Jessica Wilkerson, LMFT
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist #104464

Owner and clinicial supervisor of Inspired Life Counseling in Chico CA.

You can set an appointment with here by going to this page.
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1/16/2023 01:16:29 am

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