You have permission to be happy.
I don't care what the nay-sayers say.
Nobody has permission to rain on your parade; to tell you you're too happy; to act like you're less than they are because you see the sunny side of things. Nobody.
Do you hear me?
No really, do you? Do you believe me?
I've struggled with it myself. I learned when I was in my teen years that I had a choice in every situation; a choice to choose to enjoy myself and a choice to be miserable. One day something clicked; I could make the best of the situation because my parent or friend was "making" me be there and do that - or I could hate it and be miserable, and make everyone else miserable too. So I chose that I'd rather be happy than not-happy. It's about my day and my experiences, I want good ones.
Since that epiphany at age 16 or 17, I have been one happy lady.
Simply because I choose it.
There's an inherent problem, though. The Eeyores of this world HATE IT. It's so annoying to them. The positivity and joy that radiates is sometimes misunderstood as unintelligent, shallow, or careless. But you know what - PHOOEY!
That's their issue. Those are other people's insecurities being projected onto the joyful folks, and we don't need to dodge those bullets or worry what other less-joyfilled people think. Really. There is too much chaos in this world, too many other bullets to dodge.
There are so many articles written about how to release depression; how to find fulfillment; or how to make your life happier - but nobody writes articles for people who are already happy. Well, this is for YOU.
Don't fake it. Don't "cheer-down". Don't be afraid that others might deem you less professional or less intellectual. It's simply untrue. You can be smart and happy - and I'm here to prove it!
I know that you worry, have stress, are scared about various things, feel frustrated and angry at times - I know that despite feeling those feelings, you take a moment to step back, feel the feeling, and then make the choice not to let it influence your moment/day.
I know that it takes intellect and a strong will to decide to deal with those emotions later when it's appropriate, and when you have the time to address the issue-at-hand. I know that the world doesn't see all that happening under the surface. All the world sees is that you seem unshakable and happy - and I know that what shakes your joy is when the world judges you as less-than because of that strength.
Be who you are without apologies!
You are admirable!
You are the type of person that people strive to be, but don't know it!
We are called to be the salt & the light!
That means we add flavor and illumination!
And if you are someone who is struggling with the annoyingly chipper coworker, smile at them and appreciate that they have something special. Their positivity is not a reflection on who you are just as much as you are not a reflection of them. You can find a way to be "yin & yang" with each other, neither of you needs to make deep personality changes.
However, If you want to learn to move up one more step in the joy department, spend one day smiling at each person who walks near your desk. Look up, and smile. You don't have to be perky, and you don't have to make small talk, just smile.
I promise, it will ROCK YOUR WORLD!
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Jessica Wilkerson also provides therapy to families, couples, individuals, children and teens.
To make an appointment with Jessica for therapy, please call her at (530) 921-5122 or email her at jwilkerson@chicocreekcounseling.com. You can find her on her office webpage at: http://chicocreekcounseling.com/our-staff/jessica-wilkerson/
I don't care what the nay-sayers say.
Nobody has permission to rain on your parade; to tell you you're too happy; to act like you're less than they are because you see the sunny side of things. Nobody.
Do you hear me?
No really, do you? Do you believe me?
I've struggled with it myself. I learned when I was in my teen years that I had a choice in every situation; a choice to choose to enjoy myself and a choice to be miserable. One day something clicked; I could make the best of the situation because my parent or friend was "making" me be there and do that - or I could hate it and be miserable, and make everyone else miserable too. So I chose that I'd rather be happy than not-happy. It's about my day and my experiences, I want good ones.
Since that epiphany at age 16 or 17, I have been one happy lady.
Simply because I choose it.
There's an inherent problem, though. The Eeyores of this world HATE IT. It's so annoying to them. The positivity and joy that radiates is sometimes misunderstood as unintelligent, shallow, or careless. But you know what - PHOOEY!
That's their issue. Those are other people's insecurities being projected onto the joyful folks, and we don't need to dodge those bullets or worry what other less-joyfilled people think. Really. There is too much chaos in this world, too many other bullets to dodge.
There are so many articles written about how to release depression; how to find fulfillment; or how to make your life happier - but nobody writes articles for people who are already happy. Well, this is for YOU.
Don't fake it. Don't "cheer-down". Don't be afraid that others might deem you less professional or less intellectual. It's simply untrue. You can be smart and happy - and I'm here to prove it!
I know that you worry, have stress, are scared about various things, feel frustrated and angry at times - I know that despite feeling those feelings, you take a moment to step back, feel the feeling, and then make the choice not to let it influence your moment/day.
I know that it takes intellect and a strong will to decide to deal with those emotions later when it's appropriate, and when you have the time to address the issue-at-hand. I know that the world doesn't see all that happening under the surface. All the world sees is that you seem unshakable and happy - and I know that what shakes your joy is when the world judges you as less-than because of that strength.
Be who you are without apologies!
You are admirable!
You are the type of person that people strive to be, but don't know it!
We are called to be the salt & the light!
That means we add flavor and illumination!
And if you are someone who is struggling with the annoyingly chipper coworker, smile at them and appreciate that they have something special. Their positivity is not a reflection on who you are just as much as you are not a reflection of them. You can find a way to be "yin & yang" with each other, neither of you needs to make deep personality changes.
However, If you want to learn to move up one more step in the joy department, spend one day smiling at each person who walks near your desk. Look up, and smile. You don't have to be perky, and you don't have to make small talk, just smile.
I promise, it will ROCK YOUR WORLD!
---------------------------------
Jessica Wilkerson also provides therapy to families, couples, individuals, children and teens.
To make an appointment with Jessica for therapy, please call her at (530) 921-5122 or email her at jwilkerson@chicocreekcounseling.com. You can find her on her office webpage at: http://chicocreekcounseling.com/our-staff/jessica-wilkerson/
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